3 Lessons I've Learned from Trying to Do Everything Myself

There's a saying, "Get out of your own way," in which many entrepreneurs are all too familiar with. Well, at least I would hope so. We often forget that our passions and purpose in life can't be achieved if we are unwilling to get out of our own way and allow other experts to help us along the journey. And as simple as it sounds, we still feel the need to do everything ourselves, even when we know in our heart that it's probably not going to turn out the way it should. 

Entrepreneurs are blinded by this idea that you have to do everything on your own, from sales to marketing, and even attending every single conference available in your niche. But that's not reality. Yes, as entrepreneurs, you should want to absorb every bit of information concerning your area of expertise, however, it is impossible to successfully get further and not remain stagnate because you don't want to escape from the 'I can do it all by myself' syndrome. 

Now, to be clear, there are specific things entrepreneurs should learn and do as a leader, however, when you are not capable nor able to thoughtfully complete a task that requires a specific skill set that you do not have, this is your time (as a light bulb cuts on) to ask for help. It's time to allow yourself to grow and forget about trying to do it all on your own. 

As many entrepreneurs have come to realize, if you try to do everything yourself, you'll most likely do even less. Do you recall a time when you've planned out everything and how you would master that plan, but when the time comes you felt overwhelmed and uninspired to effectively complete that plan? This is the meaning of doing even less than expected.

When you are choosing to not allow others to help you, you are choosing to prevent your success from happening. Build a team that you can surround yourself with to implement your plans and vision effectively.  

As we get further into this post, I want you to think about the progress you've made over the last 3 years. What was it about those three years that have either caused you to grow or have kept you from moving further in life?  What can we learn by allowing others to help us? Here are the three lesson's I've learned when allowing others to help me accomplish goals and implement my visions and plans. 

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It's NOT okay to create an overwhelming atmosphere with tasks that you CAN outsource to others. 

There are so many people readily available to assist you in any and every area that you can think of. It seems that we can discuss what our visions and goals are but we can't outsource tasks that require an experts attention. So, why do you expect anything more? Don't expect to relieve yourself from the I can do it by myself syndrome if you aren't willing, to be honest with yourself. Simply utilize the resources that are right at your fingertips and outsource as needed. Keep in mind, this doesn't mean you have to go bankrupt in order to get anywhere, but you should plan, save, and invest in your support. Remember, when you invest in others, they will invest in you. This will not only create the support system you need but will also provide you with more opportunities and clients in the future. 

There's nothing wrong with saying you can't do it by yourself. Ask for help. 

I'm not quite sure where this mentality of doing it yourself came about, but in all honesty, we can't do it by ourselves. We are organically made to receive and give help when needed. When you are able to ask for help, let alone, accept it, you are becoming more aware of your ability and the abilities in others to create an effective team that will help you achieve your vision. Asking for help does not, in any way, mean you are weak. Asking for help simply means you are strong and ready for success. 

You can't grow if you aren't willing to let go and let others take control. 

This and this alone can be the difference between you reaching your success or you getting exactly nowhere. Entrepreneurs must be open to accept a helping hand and allow ideas and plans to fall as they may. Unfortunately, many of us aren't willing to let go which leads to a fear of not being in control and not seeing perfectionism. However, it's okay to fail, it's okay allow things to fall as they may because ultimately, this is how we are able to learn and grow from those failures and fears.  Allowing others to take control will help you reach your full potential. You will learn from their success and mistakes, while also inspiring others to understand that you can't do it alone.  

Your ideas and your willingness to keep an open mind and accept outside opinions will help you overcome this syndrome.

I hope this post shed light on the 'I can do it by myself' syndrome. It's time to see you succeed because you deserve it. So, stop getting in your own way. 

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